Dating is a total minefield and along the way we encounter many awkward situations which could have been avoided. With hindsight that will become clear, but in the meantime allow me to spell out some of the dating realities that we all wish we had known sooner!


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It Is Not About Convincing Someone You Are Good Enough For Them

One of the biggest mistake that singles make is that they go all out to impress their date in a bid to convince them that they are 'good enough' to have a relationship. When you do this you are selling yourself short. You don't need to convince anyone how amazing you are! What you should be focusing on is finding someone that you are comfortable with and enjoy spending time with. You should look for your perfect fit, not try to fit what you think they are looking for!

If a Date Claims to be to Damaged to Have a Relationship Don't Try to Fix Them!

Sometimes, after a few dates you will hear those dreaded words – 'I don't think this is working'. It may be some variation of those words but the general concept is the same. They may offer up a variety of reasons that fall into the 'it's not you, it's me' category. The most common being that they are not in the right place to give their time to a relationship. If someone says this to you then you might be tempted to try to 'fix' or heal them. However, it is best to just walk away. They either really are in a bad place in which case you don't want the extra baggage or they are just looking for an excuse because they are not really into you and want to end things.

Not Every Date is An Audition For Marriage

Don't pin all of your hopes on the first date! Sure, you are going to eventually find your special someone and you might even end up heading up the aisle together, but let's be honest for a moment. You are going to have to go on a lot of bad dates first. You might even go on a few good dates and ultimately decide not to move forward with the relationship. You might even have a couple of one night stands and that is okay too as long as you are both upfront about your expectations. Think of each date as a try out to see if a second (or third) date is on the cards.

Perfect Your Gaydar – It Will Save A Lot of Time And Energy!

Women especially need to perfect their inner gaydar so that they can identify gay men quickly. There is nothing worse than meeting a great guy only to find out that you really are not his type! You need to spend your time chasing guys who are actually interested in girls!

Ask Yourself If You Really Are Ready For a Relationship

Don't ever feel like you need to be on the dating circuit simply because it is expected of you. It is okay to spend some time being single. Go to the movies on your own or to visit the local museum. Once you do settle down into a long term relationship you will miss those moments of freedom so make the most of your single life while you have it! If you are not ready for serious dating right now then why not spend some time chatting on webcam sites and chat rooms instead of actually going on dates?

These are just a few of the things that most people who have played the dating game wish that they had known sooner, but hopefully knowing about them will help you to move past these situations before you waste too much time or energy!