Have you ever given your partner the silent treatment? Have you ever tried resolving an issue but your partner participates by giving you nothing but silence? Think not saying anything is the best way to stop a fight? Stop doing this. New research says it doesn't work.

Researchers found from 74 studies that couples who engage in a particular pattern of avoidance can ruin their relationship.


That's right. It seems that sulking and keeping your mouth shut and not addressing the issue is worse.

Silent treatment can get very, very cold.

The withdraw pattern happens when one party approaches the other with silence.


Things will escalate even more because the receiver of silent treatment might get pissed because they can't communicate their points across.

We are arguing in our heads.

In this case, researcher Paul Schrodt says that couples in this pattern see the other person as the problem.


With less intimacy and communication in your relationship, it could lead to distress.


And worst, a break up!


So don't, don't talk. Speak up now.