1. You actually will move on and you actually will be fine and then that's when he may actually miss how incredible and special you are.

2. It's all going to be okay. None of us know how our lives are going to turn out. And I think it's better that way.

3. You're bright and joyful and so many people are cynical. They won't understand you and they won't understand me. But the only way they win is if your tears turn you to stone and make you bitter like them. Just don't let them change or stop you from singing or dancing around to your favorite song.

4. I can't promise you that you'll ever live in a world where people don't hurt your feelings, but I can promise you that if you keep on moving and taking one day at a time, the opinions and words of people who hurt you will matter less and less to you.

5. I wish you could speed up time and all of a sudden see this pain in retrospect. We get used to things, don't we? Waking up to a text every morning, falling asleep to a phone call, hearing someone's name and lighting up. These are all habits we have to break when we lose someone and it's NOT FAIR because it's terrible and you are awesome.

6. I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized. As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don't think that's how it works. I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind. It's just as crushing and just as thrilling.

7. I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind. You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you'll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you'll find someone who loves you in that exact same way.

8. You and I both know there's got to be some greater storyline for you than "girl gets heart broken, was sad forever." I think a nice one would be, "girl gets heart broken, was sad for a while but in her heartbreak she found freedom, friends and the ability to look back and laugh at all she'd learned."

9. Self doubt can be like falling down a rabbit hole, and it's hard to tell whether it will end in some new epiphany or in feeling lost and defeated. You have to be the judge of when to just take it easy on yourself. Taking things one step at a time is an exhausting process, but I think one day you'll look around and see that finding yourself wasn't as terrifying as you thought it would be.

10. One terrible truth I've discovered is that sometimes we don't just have a bad day or a bad month, sometimes we have a bad year .Sometimes we feel like we have no control over the endless waves of bad luck we seem to be experiencing. But one thing you do have control over is your outlook. Your mindset is yours to control and as hard as it is to step back from the situation and have blind faith that will change for the better, it's our only option other than ending up in a downward spiral.

11. You get to choose a new place to have adventures. It can be far away or close by, but wherever you go, you'll get to start over completely. These transitions seem paralyzing if you don't take things one step at a time, and I definitely get anxious about starting over with new things too. But then I get excited, then inspired, then you wake up one day and you're in a completely new phase of your life.

12. I think life gets so much easier to handle when you've got really true friends to lean on and vent to.

13. Time will break all of the old habits and create new ones for you, and in the process, you will try to handle this immense pain with dignity (because you're that kind of girl.)

In other words, just shake it off.