Meeting the right person “at the wrong time” is a common excuse for the demise of a relationship, but when you really think about it, how can it be true? If you truly met the right person, would the timing really matter?

There are plenty of reasons relationships don’t work out. But blaming an external factor such as time doesn’t exactly make sense. If you meet the right person — your soulmate, if you will — it’s likely that nothing would stop you from being together.

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Let’s take a look at some of the reasons people use the excuse “right person, wrong time,” and why the actual problem might not have to do with a calendar.

Big Life Events
Whether you lost your job, had a death in the family, or are going through a tough custody battle, certain situations can make you emotionally unavailable. When this happens, you might say it was the “right person, wrong time.” 

The problem with that? If you meet the right person, big life events might be inconvenient, but they won’t stop the two of you from being together. If anything, your new partner will be there to support you during a difficult situation. Maybe they actually came into your life at the perfect time to help get you through it!

They Were Moving Too Fast
The excuse here is that maybe you met the right person, but you just weren’t ready to be committed yet. Unfortunately, that type of excuse might be an attempt to cover up the real issue going on — a fear of intimacy, rather than the timing.

It’s worth repeating that when you meet the right person, there isn’t much that can stand in your way. You’ll want to be close, intimate, and committed. If anything, you want to be around each other too much! 

The Right Person is Timeless
The reality is, there is no wrong time to meet “the one.” They will make you want to throw your plans to the side and focus on your future together. While you should never completely give up your prior life, the right person will outweigh anything else going on. You’ll want to prioritize them and your relationship, no matter what situation you are in.

If there’s a reason you don’t want to be with someone, it’s likely that you’ve simply met the wrong person. It’s always the right time to meet your perfect partner, so if you’re feeling unsure, then you’re probably not meant to be! 

If you’re using the excuse that “the timing is wrong,” what you’re actually saying is that the person isn’t worth your time. If they are “your person,” you’ll So, throw that clock and calendar out the window — if you meet someone great, they won’t matter!