Breakups can sometimes be difficult to deal with, and sometimes we
indulge in rebound relationships immediately after for sexual or
emotional comfort. But as regular as these quick connections are,
they've also gotten a bad rap.
People assume that others on the
rebound are either looking for a quick way to get over someone, or get
back at their exes - which isn't a smart move.
researchers have something to say about it. According to recent research
from Queens College and the University of Illinois, rebound
relationships might not be so silly after all. In fact, they might even
have some advantages.
In a series of two studies, researchers
asked people who had recently been through a breakup and how they were
doing; if they had moved on to someone else, and how they felt about
An analysis of the study results led them to some
interesting findings: The less time participants spent single between
relationships, the higher their well-being, self-esteem, and confidence
in their dating appeal. Rebounders tended to have more contact and
respect for their current partner too. But on the flip side, they were
also more likely to compare their current partner with their ex.
findings from these studies suggest that people who rapidly begin a new
rebound relationship are not necessarily any worse off than those who
wait longer to get reinvolved," the authors wrote in the study. "In
fact, in some domains, they appear to be better functioning."
in mind though, that these studies simply show a correlation, and not a
cause-and-effect relationship. So it's possible that people who already
feel good post-breakup are more likely to start dating quickly, rather
than feeling great because they've rebounded.
Whatever it is, the
study shows that not all rebound relationships are doomed. Just be sure
you know where your head and heart is at, and tread wisely.