In a recent poll, Men's Health found that a staggering 80% of women have trouble climaxing during sex. That's a whole lot of unsatisfied women out there. Fix the problem - and you'll both reap the benefits.
The Problem Is In: Her Head Unlike men, who can get aroused at any time of the day, women have trouble getting turned on when their minds are filled with problems or thoughts that have nothing to do with you. "Women fall into a trancelike state during orgasm," says Ian Kerner, Ph D., the author of She Comes First. "The brain "deactivity" is necessary to female orgasm."
How You Can Help Encourage her to fantasize. Thinking about sex will help prep her up for a romp at night. If she's still tensed, a glass of wine and a sensual massage will help slow her thoughts and eliminate anything except what she's feeling.
The Problem Is In: Her Anatomy 70% of women are unable to climax with just penetration alone. The secret to her orgasm is clitoral stimulation.
How You Can Help "Pick positions that will provide persistent stimulation, like having her on top or the missionary position, where you're both focused on deep penetration with lots of pelvis-to-clitoris pressing," says Kerner. If that doesn't work, what about calling in backup? Not a third party, but sex toys. That should leaver her eager for another go.