For the most part, the ladies who frequent the hot spots aren’t exactly diamonds in the rough; they’re not secretly wishing they were home with a good book, listening to soft jazz on their favorite AM radio station. Typically, the hotties are personable, even forward, as they don’t have any self-esteem issues and they feel confident amongst crowds. Well, of course. When women are aware of their appeal, they rarely exhibit any shyness or nervousness around the opposite sex. However, every once in a while, you will encounter the quiet, shy, slightly unsure-of-herself girl, the one who simply doesn’t feel comfortable as the center of attention. It can be extraordinarily difficult to get close to these chicks, mostly because they’re probably experts at playing defense. Oh, but there are ways…

So, here are some tips on how to score a shy chick.

Most men will proudly claim they “know their way around a woman’s body,” but even the most accomplished lover must admit that certain intricate aspects remain a mystery. Therefore, the best way to illuminate the darker corners of the female anatomy, those corners that will glow in pleasure when a light is cast upon them, is to go directly to the source.

I recently sat down with some of my gay and bisexual friends, women who aren’t shy about spilling the goods about their girl-on-girl experiences. Although I’m certain you are confident in your bedroom abilities, most of you secretly wish to know of the X-factor -- that one missing skill from your repertoire that can escalate your encounter from a standard rated-R scene to the neighbors turning to each other and saying, “My God, someone’s killing her in there!” These liberal ladies I spoke to know things. So here’s what I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences.

Pay attention to everything

All men will have to concede the following fact: they are all, at one time or another, shortsighted. In other words, when things begin to heat up, the man will quickly target the obvious erogenous zones and set up camp, essentially ignoring the majority of the woman’s body. This classic mistake is what I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences, and any gay or bisexual woman will tell you: it’s all about loving the entire being -- caressing the soul through the expansive caresses of the body. Keep moving slowly until you touch an unexpected spot that will send an electric shock wave up her spine. Perhaps it’s the nape of her neck, the small of her back or even her wrists; your movements should encompass her body from head to toe, and your ministrations should be smooth and inflamed with desire.

Have a soft touch

This applies to men who continue to suffer from the belief that the preferred, masculine technique centers squarely on aggressive passion. Now, there is a time and a place for everything, but if you haven’t mastered a soft touch, you’re little more than a one-trick pony. What I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences is that women gravitate toward other women because they’re works of art, they’re soft and tender, and above all else, they respond to those who appreciate the delicateness of their constitution. A woman’s body is more sensitive (as clearly indicated in the previous hint), and with gentle fingertips and subtle lips, you can take full control of her sexual urgings. You can increase the level of firmness when she responds to something in particular, but you must restrain baser impulses and refine your approach.

She’s shy. Let her be shy. For some unknown reason, men believe that beneath the exterior surface lies an uninhibited tigress just waiting for someone to release the bar on her cage. Many would-be Players simply assume they’re just the guy to unlock the prison and let her roam free. Yeah, well, this myth only survives due to a rash of exorbitantly large male ego. Not all women have a porn star’s tendencies or attitude beneath that conservative sweater, so just let her be. Abandon all forward or aggressive moves, and just see if you can coax a smile out of her. Keep the conversation quiet and unassuming, but pique her interest any way you can.

If you want to score a shy chick, you can’t launch into overt flirting behavior, so you won’t be able to rely on your physical skills or pickup lines. Your looks will obviously play a role, but if you want to appeal to the shy chick, you had better identify with her on the verbal level. She probably isn’t much of a talker, but everyone has their preferred topics of conversation, be it music, travel, exercise or whatever. If you find out what it is, a few petals of that luscious flower will open, and the best part is that she opened them voluntarily. She’ll appreciate the effort, especially if you’re listening and contributing to the discussion. Just make sure you always show an interest, even if her favorite hobby is gardening.

If you want to score the shy chick, you had best be prepared to take a seat for a little while. If she’s low on your priority list and you’ve already targeted a half-dozen other girls in the place, then you may as well pass altogether. This girl isn’t about to laugh at all your jokes, grab your arm and beg you to take her to the heights of passion just because you seem witty. You’ll have to prove yourself; she’s not going to commit to, or even offer, much of anything until she has convinced herself that you’re worth the chance. Hence, it’s time to spark a conversation and get a little more involved in the mental aspect. This is a careful process; gently poke and prod (metaphorically, genius) until you’ve got her hooked on a particular line.