You may still remember those times when your first sex was full of
passion and desire and you both could not take your hands off each
other. You could have sex anywhere, anytime and you couldn't have
enough of it.
Now, that you are settled in a marriage, your sex
life underwent some changes and sex became less sizzling. Does it mean
that sex will disappear from your life?
First of all, it is worth
mentioning that almost every couple will face this situation sooner or
later, but it doesn't mean the end of sexual relationships in a
marriage. The fact that we all have different libido, with different
preferences and frequency of sex is not always obvious during a
honeymoon phase. But sooner or later when a man and a women have long
term relationships, their differences may lead to certain conflicts.
1. Find a compromise
your partner has higher libido you will need additional stimulation to
find common ground. First of all, you will need to explain this to your
partner and find out what turns you on the most: romantic evening,
longer foreplay, certain words or some other details. You may hint
about your desires to your partner so that both of you could enjoy sex.
case when your partner has lower libido, you may need to be more active
and inventive to arouse him or her. Show your interest in your
partner's desires and feelings and you will be gratified for such
2. Choose a right role
Now that sex roles
are not so determined, our sexuality is still often based on
traditional roles. And while most of us have to play different roles,
it is better to forget about them once you are in a bedroom. Many women
are extremely turned on by the feelings of being a weaker sex in their
sexual relationships and being conquered by a stronger man. As long as
you both agree on your roles, your satisfaction will be very high.
3. Be more sensual
of the most effective ways to return those sizzling nights back in your
life is to get detached from the intercourse. Touch each other with
your hands, tongues, feathers and use other ways to arouse your partner
sexually. Take things slowly and be patient during such foreplay. The
main rule is to avoid the intercourse. This will make a difference for
your usual sexual scenarios and let the desire built up. Sensual focus
is also a good way to become closer to each other.
4. Improve your relationships
is closely related to relationships with your partner, that's why many
couples end up on different sides of the bed at the end of the day.
Frequent fights, misunderstandings and lack of attention are common
reasons why your partner may refuse sex. Many women need to feel
appreciated and loved to be aroused and this plays very important role
in long-term relationships. Try to discuss your desires and conflicts
before sex and show your interest towards your partner. This can make a
big difference in your sex life.
5. Stay realistic
expect sex to be perfect every day with both of you feeling satisfied
every time you make love. Real sex life is not what you see in
Hollywood stories and you are not on a stage. It is up to you to make
your sex life better and bring happiness in your relationships. Keep in
mind that you and your partner have your ups and downs and do not let
the disappointment overwhelm you.