Fact: Prostate is the size of a walnut and is located 4 cm (1.6 inches) in from the anus on the anterior wall, down from the bladder and in front of the rectum.

The function of the prostate is to lubricate the ejaculation process (adds to semen and other seminal fluids) and to increase pH making the vagina more hospitable and, therefore, more conducive to fertilization. It produces prostatic fluid when the man is aroused and contracts during ejaculation to empty.

Why do it? Pleasure. Plain and simple. Concentration of nerve endings makes stimulation very pleasurable for many men. Intensity of orgasm can increase two or three fold with prostate stimulation. It can also delay ejaculation.

Social Taboo: Some men shy away from prostate stimulation because of the taboos associated with anal play in our culture. Deep rooted (unsubstantiated) beliefs leave men feeling shame and a general concern that they will become or will be considered homosexual.

But you shouldn't be conned into such taboo anymore. Talk to your partner about whether she is open to exploring the prostate. When you get a blowjob, you can show her how to play gently with the outside part of your anus and perineum (area of skin between the anus and the testicles).

Now get this: the most effective way to access the prostate is anally. Have her lie on your back with knees up; this leaves your penis available to play with throughout the prostate play. Let her sit between your legs. Lube up: Thicker lube is better for anal play.

It is essential that she keeps her fingernails short and wear latex gloves to prevent bacteria getting into the delicate rectal tissues. But if she loves her nails too much, then have her put cotton balls over the nail, inside a latex glove. The action might sound gross, but believe us you will like it!

Finger position: With the fingernail pointing back, tell her to finger up your (mind our language) arse, while you're curving your waist into a "come here" position. When she starts inserting a finger you'll have a sensation that will feel awkward, but stimulating.

You should tell her to slowly rub the outside of the anus smoothing lubricant fully around the area. Slowly slip in the tip of the finger; this will cause the two sphincter muscles to contract. Give the two of you a break for a minute to adjust to the feeling. Then start again. Unless you two are sex machines, you can't have this too abruptly. 

You may have the urge to urinate or have a bowel movement, but you won't. This is just apart of the process of stimulation. If you're too worried about anal play there is always another (albeit less effective) way to access the prostate. The prostate can be also stimulated from outside the anal region. Although not as effectively as internally. Apply pressure to the area between the scrotum and anus. And then? Well, massage.Too bad for you if she sucks at it!

Right tool for the job: Start with something small and work your way up. Be sure to use toys that have a flared base to avoid the anus' natural suction. Check out the toys especially designed for anal play.