Having the proper tools on hand always makes the job easier and much more efficient. Just as in carpentry, the same rings true for sex. You may have the moves to keep her happy in bed for now, but the object of your desire will appreciate that little extra something when she least expects it. And we’re talking extras that enhance, prolong, entice, and make sex more enjoyable more often. Stash your leather whips, dildos and porn, and save those for another time and place.

Store these special extra items closer to the action, but not so near as to be mistakenly discovered by her before it’s time. Possible and logical places for these little gems include a drawer in the nightstand, the bathroom or a special play box under the bed. Curious to know what these extra items are? Read on for some practical yet oh-so-exciting must-haves to keep in your bedroom.

Smooth, slippery goodness awaits you when using lube. It slides, coats and eases the way. Water-based lubricants work well, especially when using condoms. Oil-based lubes tend to break down the very barrier you need in place to protect you both. A very gentle, non-burning and slick choice is the Pink lubricant. She’ll thank you for it.
Frequency of use: Use it anytime you have sex -- daily, nightly, midday, anytime. The beauty of lube is that when she wants it, you can ease in without any trouble. Increase your sexual activity by keeping her warm, wet and always at the ready.

Massage oil
Anything that involves glistening, slippery skin is conducive to a good sexual romp -- at least should be. Massages are a great form of foreplay. It loosens the muscles, relaxes the body and the mind, and puts her in a sensual haze. It also provides a perfect opportunity to strip off her clothes for “innocent” reasons. Good oils have a fresh, light fragrance. Consider any allergies (hers and your own) when picking fragrant oil.

Frequency of use: Unfortunately, sensual massages won’t be an everyday event. There may be times when she’ll just want a good ol' stress-relieving massage. However, in other instances she may feel your slow, kneading movements on her body and want to feel it in a much more penetrating way. You be the judge. Massage is a good way to de-stress and give yourself to her. Your time and technique will be rewarded by a sweet sexual favor in return.

Condoms are a must for anyone engaging in sexual activity. There are a plethora of choices in colors, enhancements, scents, and even flavors. Not only are condoms a sexual enhancer, they also protect against STDs and pregnancy. A good choice for those who value the importance of sensation, try the Kimono MicroThin. This ultra-thin condom is made from high-quality thin latex manufactured in Japan.
Frequency of use: All the time, every time, always. If she feels protected she will be more inclined to do it more often. The more you accept condom use, the more at ease she will feel. Treat it as a commonplace occurrence. Also, don’t forget the lube. Latex can dry out and be painful for her. Avoid stops and starts and get the pre-lubricated condoms or add a drop of Pink to your penis before you put the condom on (for your pleasure) and put some on the outside (for her pleasure). Comfort and safety are modern aphrodisiacs, indeed.


This is a very practical addition for your bedroom antics. Something soft and fluffy will aid in any kind of cleanup needed after the deed. Hot and sweaty sex calls for a little towel action to wipe away beads of sweat, or any other liquids left behind after a wild sexual romp.

Frequency of use: Towels are quite handy to have around all the time. This is an opportunity for her to see your thoughtful, caring and gentle side as you wipe her body clean. Then when both of you are decent you’ll be ready to get dirty all over again.

Like scarves, ties can be used to bind, blindfold and sumptuously play with one another. Slightly naughty and a little kinky, this everyday item might just have her  warming to the idea of a little light bondage. Just make sure that the material isn’t too scratchy for her delicate skin.
Frequency of use: Unless she is heavily into the binds and blinds, ties won’t be used nightly. Introducing a tie for the first time will make sex more exciting, but their newness and fun factor will wear thin if used too frequently. Choose your moments and keep the kink playfully stowed away for just the right occasion.

Moist wipes
Moist towelettes or wipes are extremely handy to have as they aid in a quick cleanup, and a quick cleanup means a quick return to the action. Both you and your girl can benefit from a little freshening up between bouts of hot, sweaty sex. With all that lube, the condoms and natural lubrication, a little wipe goes a long way for a speedy return to the action. Look for the ones with natural moisturizers already added and make sure they are lightly scented or unscented, and are flushable.

Frequency of use: Keep them around all the time. Handy packs of wipes are readily available to make your sexual escapades that much more enjoyable. A little luncheon rendezvous won’t leave behind any sticky leftovers with a handy packet of moist wipes. Cleanliness and comfort are important to both parties. She will love your attention detail. Also, once she’s feeling clean and fresh again, you can always remind her why you both needed a wipe in the first place.

Covered trash can

The covered trash can is an obvious need, especially for the bedroom. This is where you toss the condom wrappers, used condoms, tissues, wipes, and any other waste you’d rather keep out of sight. It also cuts down on any errant odors.

Frequency of use: Keep one handy all the time; you’ll be throwing all your used items here. There’s no need for her to know what you did last night thanks to the empty lube tube and condom wrapper tossed on your beside table. Toss it in your covered trash can, and she’ll be none the wiser.