All good things must come to an end, including the single life. Now that you've gotten yourself engaged, you've started to realize that there are quite a few perks you never thought about: tons of engagement gifts, much more attention from friends and family and a little more "me time" while she is out preparing for the wedding. Best of all, you still get nights to yourself to hang with the guys. In fact, this situation might be even better than bachelorhood. If only this could last... forever?
OK, maybe not for all eternity, but there are ways for you to prolong your engagement and to keep your bachelor status alive for as long as possible: Don't commit to a date A specific date means an exact end. A grand finale to the ringless finger. The final curtain on the first act of your life, titled "The Single Life."
Actually, it's not that uncommon for couples to put off setting a date. People rush into wedding planning, and are often at the mercy of reception halls and wedding venues, forced to settle on a time and date based on availability. Places are often booked a year or even two in advance so you're forced to pick a day that doesn't really have significance to you. Waiting is actually a smart move because it allows your fiance to wait for the preferred time of year and possibly choose the exact date to exchange vows.
Make a big life change Every man should think about the next step in life. Now that your relationship is on a certain course, shouldn't your career or life path start taking shape? It's just as big a part of the future as a wife and kids. Maybe it's time to go back to school for a higher degree. Perhaps the market is right to take that leap and start your own business. Making a big change in life is a simple way to postpone the big day with good reason.
Blame your finances The cost of getting married is obscene. According to estimates, the average cost of an American wedding is anywhere from $20,000 to $28,000. Most couples put themselves in debt before they even say, "I do." Fighting about money is not the way to start off a marriage.
Of course, this only works if the two of you are paying for the wedding as a couple. If the parents are paying the bill, you might have to opt for plan B, saying you'd feel guilty asking either set of 'rents to put out that much money.
Let family get in the way Meddling in-laws can come into play and be used to your advantage. There's a chance your plans might get upset by things that are beyond your control, which provides you with ample time to suggest waiting until things turn around.
2014 is coming to an end and hopefully you've had a good year, but if not, let's hope next year will be better. But in order to be better, there are a few things that need to disappear. Here they are: Read more