Keys to First Date Conversation

For most men finding something to SAY at all to a female is one of the toughest "tasks" they face as a collective. The downside to hitting on a female is "striking out".

The upside to hitting on a female is that you only have to talk for a minute or so. Your personality and creativity and charm are all jam packed into a quick jolt of infatuated excitement. When you finally take the plunge and take that same female out on a first date you have to make all of the charm and excitement last.

Don't forget YOU asked HER out so the ball is really in your court to keep her entertained and prove to her you're not a one-minute-one-hit-wonder.

"How much money do you make"? That is one of the many things you DON'T talk about on a date. Your income, penis size or ex-girlfriends is absolutely off the list of things to talk about on a date. You should know better by now anyway because you are a man not a boy. If you are a you're a young guy reading this then you wanting to be a man is what brought you (like many others) to Seduction Insider to begin with: To share the wisdom of love, sex, and dating… yes even dating.

First dates have many do's and don'ts - but nothing comes without trying.


Here are some tips for the "first round":

1. Questions, Questions, Questions!

In sales, one of the lessons they teach you is to follow everything you says with a "question". Even if she asks you a question, you answer and follow it with a question. The more she talks the more questions you will ask.


2. Viva La Familia

Nothing is closer to the heart than family. Is she from a big family? Does she want a family? Was she abandoned by her family? This is revealing stuff for future reference. Do you want kids? Do you want marriage? She needs to know things too you know.


3. Now That's Funny!

Are you comedic, sardonic, sarcastic or otherwise the class clown? If so you are in like Flynn because the only time a woman does not want to talk is when she is laughing. If you two are laughing all night she will leave knowing this much: She had a great time.


4. Testing Testing

Some guys like smart chicks. The best way to find out is talk about something ultra intelligent and see how many questions she asks or how much she knows on the subject. Start with science and work down the ladder to art. Ask questions that test common knowledge not academics (later).


5. Me, Myself & I

Talk about yourself. Talk about what you like and dislike and maybe you will find out sooner than later that you two are a match or maybe you are not. Some girls would rather listen than talk and some guys would rather talk than listen - perfect.


6. Good Taste

The food you are eating or the clothes she is wearing are great subject matter. Do you have something to offer in the way of fashion or cuisine? Show off because girls like those subjects and are impressed by comprehension of them.


7. Testing II

People with a formal education love to talk about where they went to school and what they studied because it took up a big chunk of their life and some stay very close to their alma matter by attending games and school functions such as fund raisers. This is boring stuff to me but whatever.


8. Extra! Extra! Read all about it!

Current events such as the war in Iraq are hot topics for anyone with the slightest political vane. Talk about what is going on locally or nationally that affects you personally then that will show you if there is any stimulus being invested from her.


9. All work and no play…

The workplace or our careers consume a great deal of time for each of us so it is not a stretch to talk about what we do for a living and how we are affected by it. Stay away from badmouthing employees or bosses because that sounds bitter and you don't that.


10. Sex, Sex and more Sex

Okay you knew it was coming, did you think I was giving that one up so easily? Sex is what every guy wants to talk about that is why we want you to read the other 9 first. Stay away from this subject unless you got nothing left or she goes there first. If not you look like every other guy who wants to have sex with her. Be original.

Being original or creative or funny or narcissistic are all ways to start a conversation on the first date but remember it is a "conversation" and so your efforts MUST include her. The first tip on questions is the most important (yes even over humor or sex) because you can't understand how she works if you don't know anything about her.

No matter how it is going, you should always try to answer every question or finish every story with a QUESTION about her or her past or her future. Keep this rule of thumb handy, "If it is important to her, it is important me".

Woman LOVE to talk about themselves. Women LOVE to talk about themselves.

See now I have told you that 3 times - so the key to talking to girls on a date is: Let her do ALL the talking.


Note to Self:

Yes, yes, yes you want her to do most of the talking - this often reveals her interest level. However, make sure that you do not seem like a dead doorknob. When you do speak, speak with energy, and tempered enthusiasm... Meaning, don't explode with enthusiasm, but do put life and character into what you have to say... and then remember to shut up, and don't go on and on about a subject. If asked a question, give some information, and then smoothly point the conversation back in her direction and get her talking again.

Source: Jmorris