It's an age-old family priority issue with couples starting out in a committed relationship, which house to visit first for Christmas. "If I go to your parents' place, I'll miss the dinner gathering and my relatives will be in town" is what you'd say. And his rebuttal "Honey, my mum will be devastated if I don't join them for the dinner. I ALWAYS spend Christmas nights with my family and you know how they look forward to seeing their son."

This situation could turn ugly, with both of you fighting to your end's wit, refusing to back down from arguing, glorifying each defense statement with personal attacks and unjust criticism.

So instead of wondering how to trick him into coming to your mother's place, we have a few suggestions for you this season, we just hope its early enough for you to make holiday amendments!


Suggestion # 1

Talk to your parents about this year's Christmas - assure them that next year it will be at their place first before your boyfriend's family home. Make sure your boyfriend knows this arrangement and is willing to go to your place first for next year's Christmas dinner. This way, you can still make it to both houses, but only miss one dinner. Eitherway, you'll get to spend the night with both families.


Suggestion # 2

If your (or his) parents live in a different state and you'd have to literally pack your bags and head south for the season, discuss with your boyfriend how much Christmas means to either of you and decide on who gets Christmas. You can opt to spend New Year at the other folks' residence. The worst case scenario would be alternating Christmas between families. This year at your parents, and next year at his. It's really quite simple.


Suggestion # 3


If you and your boyfriend are living together in a house that can hold more than 20 people, invite both sides of your family over, down to your siblings and close cousins. Cook them a lavish meal or get the ladies to help out in a pot luck session and everyone should be happy!


Suggestion # 4

Have dinner at your respective houses and meet up later on at either house for after-dinner drinks. Or you could meet outside at a Christmas party elsewhere or plan a romantic night for the both of you.

Suggestion # 5

Spend Christmas alone. Make a Christmas dinner together and enjoy the coziness of the both of you. You can later proceed to your respective family homes separately, or together. The only danger here is your angry families!