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It may be the Year of the Tiger for some, but in Hollywood-land, 2010 is clearly starting to show signs of it being The Year of the Cheater.

We see them everyday on television, in magazines and newspapers, and even on the Internet: high profile men who got hitched with all the ostentation of wealth, only to be left with skinny, sad wives and a reputation in tatters.



One writer from the Daily Mail however points out that these scandalous headlines and juicy details revealing stupid indiscretions may in fact be 'normalizing' adultery. Here is what she has to say about the entire she-bang:

...I would argue that headlines about marriages cracking because of stupid indiscretions make adultery seem normal.

That beautiful idea of life-long commitment, which is implicit in the awe-inspiring phrase 'until death do us part', is mocked each day by the ease with which people seem to accept that, in today's world, loyalty is passe.

And the worst of it is that the men who are doing the cheating  -  sports stars or pop idols  -  are held up as gods by millions of young men, who will inevitably receive the message that this is an acceptable way to behave.

As somebody said to me the other day: 'The thing is, nobody is shocked by infidelity any more, are they?' She went on to suggest that, as a result, there are fewer serious consequences to cheating.

....As a columnist dealing with human emotions, I can't help but see the many facets of the legacy of adultery.

For example, I scroll down my folder of emails from married women and read the subjects:

'Husband's affair,' 'He's walked out,' 'Can't forgive him,' 'His betrayal,' '34 years up the spout,' 'Should I fight for my marriage,' and so on. Scores of them in six months  -  without counting the hand-written letters. That's why it's so dangerously-wrong for anyone to believe that adultery is part of life now..

...But what really interests me is the wide-reaching effect of the publicity of celebrity break-ups.

Again and again, I hear a despair in 20-somethings (usually female) who say 'nobody can be trusted'. They question the whole idea of commitment because it doesn't seem to mean much any more.

Young men the same age are more likely to shy away from 'plighting their troth'. Even if men and women have always fallen in love where they shouldn't, the rest of society didn't hear about it. Now the message shouted from the headlines is that the wedding day is just a prelude to divorce.

That seems to me to be very sad. And perhaps it's where ( remembering the dictionary definition) adultery truly does 'corrupt'.

Adultery can mean a 'bit on the side' or a thunderbolt which shatters three or four hearts. It can cause terrible guilt and a conflict between duty and love  -  and remind us of the painful truth that there are different types of love.

But if infidelity is as old as marriage, the more it becomes a staple diet of the media the more we will all come to accept it  -  and that's the saddest thing of all.

Do you agree with her points or does she just come across as a woman scorned? Are celebrities and their love lives really have affecting modern society's perception towards relationships, marriages and infidelities? Or are we all just becoming too enamored by what's going on in their lives in order to forget about dealing with our own relationship issues? Feel free to tell us what you think.


[DM]