Dignity is about being worthy of respect, and a classy resignation should leave your employer sorry to see you go.
If you resign with dignity and class, it's how you'll
be remembered. That said, resigning is stressful, so follow these tips
to make it as painless as possible:
Check your contract
What is your notice period?
If you're still on probation, you are likely to be able to terminate the contract with immediate effect.
Most employers will ask for between two and four week's notice.
you can get your employer to waive your notice period, you are legally
obliged to work it. Doing so with good grace is advised.
if you don't have a written contract, a verbal contract counts in law.
You might have agreed to let your boss have a week's notice, or to
complete certain jobs. If you don't honour a verbal contract, you're
liable to lose out on a last paycheque.
Knowing where you stand legally will give you more confidence when it comes to breaking the news.
Call a meeting with your boss
Prepare your opening speech in advance, and practice with a friend.
Try to anticipate your boss's reaction, and prepare some responses.
the urge to make your resignation personal, or turn it into a grand
gesture. Do say: "I've decided to move on." Don't say: "You've ruined
Be positive about your time at work,
as you are sure to need a reference. Thank them for the opportunities
they've given you, and if possible mention something specific that you
Stick to your story. Your boss may try to get you to divulge your real reasons for quitting.
above it. If your boss clings, whimpering, to your leg, or threatens
your family, then you will win the moral victory if you stay composed.
Write a formal resignation letter
the date, your name, your boss's name, your notice of termination of
employment, when this will be effective from, details of your notice
period, and your signature. This is all it needs.
If they're genuine, include some brief positive comments about your time at the company.
It's a good idea to say you want to help the handover go smoothly, and that you're keen to finish any outstanding projects.
Give the letter to your boss, and keep a copy for your records. You can even frame it!
employers operate exit interviews as a matter of policy. Others may
offer you one for a number of reasons. You are not entitledto an exit interview, but if you have something to say then you might want to ask for one.
You might want to keep your reasons for leaving to yourself, which you're entitled to do.
interviews are a forum for you to offer constructive feedback to your
employer, so that they can learn from your experience of working for
Some employers take the results of exit interviews very seriously, and change policy on the basis of what is said.
Resist the if I-ran-the-company approach. If you've only been there six months, now is not the time to get big ideas.
your comments in advance, and be specific. If you feel that your
employer is doing something wrong, give an example of how you
experienced this, and how you feel it could have been done differently.
Don't drag others into your complaint, as they have to carry on working
once you've left.
If you feel that your
employer is not being receptive to your comments, don't force the
issue. What you've said will go on record, so you can always say "I
told you so".
And you're off!
you have to do now is work your notice. If you find pretending to be
busy/nice a bit boring, then you might consider the following:
Ensure that your salary settlement is agreed.
hard to finish your outstanding projects, and arrange to hand over
unfinished work to your colleagues. Put yourself in their shoes, and
don't leave any nasty surprises.
been there long enough, make time to say goodbye individually to your
colleagues. They will appreciate the effort, and you might get a better
Organise leaving drinks for the
day before you go. This will prevent you from slagging anybody off,
because you'll have to show up for work in the morning.
the contact details of anybody you want to keep in touch with, whether
for personal reasons or because you might need them in the future.
Network, network, network!
If you've got a great new job to go to, don't boast about it.
Congratulate yourself on a job well undone. Buy something expensive.
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